My Cure For Insecurity

Greetings to my fellow insecure writers! As we gather together on this sunny spring day, I have a question for you – are you just insecure about writing or like me, are you insecure about pretty much everything you do?

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If there was a support group for everything I’m insecure about, I’d have a meeting every day of the week. Marriage, motherhood, running, writing, blogging – you name it; I’m insecure about it. I lack self-confidence so much that sometimes I wonder how I’ve managed to accomplish anything in my life. By rights, I should still be living at home with my parents.

Do I suffer from temporary bouts of insanity that cause me to take chances?

Most days I know I’m not crazy. So there must be something else that is stronger than my insecurity. Something I’ve just always taken for granted.

So what is it that gives me the courage to pursue my goals and dreams?

Today the answer is obvious – faith. Like with everything else in my life, I thought I was insecure in my faith too. But my life has proven me wrong. When I look back on the risks I’ve taken – scuba-diving lessons, going 9 hours away to a college where I didn’t know anyone, signing up for my first marathon, getting pregnant – I can’t help but wonder, what in the world were you thinking?

When there are decisions to be made, my mind goes in a million directions and experiences a multitude of emotions, including doubt and insecurity, yet my heart never wavers. I have the confidence to act because I have faith in God. I know in my heart that whatever I do, I do it with God – He will see me through.

I met my husband in college, ran and finished two marathons, have an amazing little girl, have stories published, have finished two A-Z Challenges – all because I relied on God. I think the only reason it’s so clear to me now is that I spent a month fully engaged in His Word. Reading the Bible, studying different characters, meditating and praying over what message to convey in my posts has opened my eyes to the true value of my faith and all it has helped me do.

It’s okay to be insecure about everything else, as long as I’m firm in faith and sure of God, who banishes my every insecurity with His own incredible, amazing and unshakable confidence.

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see (Hebrews 11:1).

‘Tis The Season For Giving

I second guess everything too — even this comment! ~ Carrie Bastyr

My insecurities are not limited to writing posts, articles, or fiction. Like Carrie, I can feel insecure about leaving comments for bloggers. Sometimes, all I can think to write is ‘Great post!’ However, that just seems lame. I feel compelled to leave something with more substance, but my mind remains blank and so I don’t leave a comment at all.

At other times, I’m inspired to write a comment full of sincere appreciation and complimentary words. Satisfied that my comment is worth sharing, I click the submit button, but then worry that I’ve written too much or went over the top. What if the blogger thinks I’m being insincere or worse, what if she thinks I’m a ‘stalker’ or something?

I don’t know why I worry about either type of comment because I enjoy receiving both. I value every comment – whether it’s a simple sentence or a longer note. That’s why my gift to my fellow bloggers this Christmas season is a comment. If you are like me, I encourage you to let go of commenting insecurity and give your fellow bloggers the gift of knowing their words have not gone unread!

 

Wishing all my fellow Insecure Writer Support Group members a very Merry Christmas and a happy New Year!

Just Do It

It’s the first Wednesday of the month and that means a meeting of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group hosted by Alex J. Cavanaugh!

I’m more confident writing non-fiction than I am writing fiction.

But why?

I suspect I’m more comfortable with non-fiction because a reader can’t argue with what I write. He/she is free to not like how it is written, but he/she can’t say I shouldn’t have written it. Does that even make any sense?

All I know is that when I post a fictional story, I feel nervous and insecure. (Okay, more nervous and insecure than usual.) Who do I think I am to think that something I imagined would be of any interest to anyone?

This is the question that frequently keeps me from working on my novel or from participating in more fiction challenges.

My friend and critique partner, Dawn posted a timely writing exercise today geared towards examining the fears we have as writers (Writing Fears Part 1). The first step to overcoming fear is recognizing it. For me, the biggest fear that keeps me from working on my WIP is wasting time writing a boring novel that will never be published.

But how do I know it will be boring if I don’t write it? And is it really a waste of time? Won’t I learn valuable lessons from writing something that is never published?

I know! I need to ‘get over it’ already and just write!

Boy, this support group is so helpful!

Parting Inspiration-

If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them. ~Henry David Thoreau

There is no use worrying about things over which you have no control, and if you have control, you can do something about them instead of worrying. ~ Stanley C. Allyn

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Don’t forget to visit The Write Soil tomorrow for tips on dealing with our fears about writing!

An Insecure Writer

As soon as I read that Alex J. Cavanaugh had started an Insecure Writer’s Support Group, I signed up. It seemed the obvious thing to do as I’m nothing if not insecure – in many and various areas of my life, especially writing. Anyone in my writer’s group will tell you, I struggle with confidence and need a lot of encouragement.

But now that our ‘first’ meeting has arrived I find myself wondering how an insecure writer finds the confidence to write about those insecurities?

The answer is simple, yet difficult: just write.

To start with, I admit that I’m feeling particularly insecure blogging. This week in addition to this post for the Insecure Writer’s Support Group, I also have to write responses to the See*Photo*Write Challenge and the First Campaigner Challenge. The pressure is a tad overwhelming.

Overwhelming, but exciting too – more readers, the potential for new followers, following new blogs. It’s like running a 5K. The atmosphere and crowds at a race make my run more exhilarating. While I normally run on my own, the occasional race helps me improve as a runner by making me run faster. These blogging challenges will hopefully help me improve as a blogger by stimulating my creativity and encouraging me to write my absolute best.

When I run a race, I don’t necessarily place and win a trophy or prize, and I may not write award-winning challenge responses this week either, but in both instances I will still have accomplished goals and improved through practice.  Most importantly, I will have taken steps to overcome my insecurities.