‘Tis The Season For Giving

I second guess everything too — even this comment! ~ Carrie Bastyr

My insecurities are not limited to writing posts, articles, or fiction. Like Carrie, I can feel insecure about leaving comments for bloggers. Sometimes, all I can think to write is ‘Great post!’ However, that just seems lame. I feel compelled to leave something with more substance, but my mind remains blank and so I don’t leave a comment at all.

At other times, I’m inspired to write a comment full of sincere appreciation and complimentary words. Satisfied that my comment is worth sharing, I click the submit button, but then worry that I’ve written too much or went over the top. What if the blogger thinks I’m being insincere or worse, what if she thinks I’m a ‘stalker’ or something?

I don’t know why I worry about either type of comment because I enjoy receiving both. I value every comment – whether it’s a simple sentence or a longer note. That’s why my gift to my fellow bloggers this Christmas season is a comment. If you are like me, I encourage you to let go of commenting insecurity and give your fellow bloggers the gift of knowing their words have not gone unread!


Wishing all my fellow Insecure Writer Support Group members a very Merry Christmas and a happy New Year!

12 thoughts on “‘Tis The Season For Giving

  1. I appreciate your honesty. I can relate, sometimes I’m over the top and other times I try to leave a thoughtful comment. Maybe I should leave a poetic line instead. Nah!
    I must be me. I must leave words that represent my thoughts. And that is how it should be for you, leave the comment that you feel speaks your true voice.

    Thank you for stopping by and leaving me a wonderful gift 😀

    Happy Holidays to you n’ yours~
    Your banner is beautiful!

  2. Hi Brianna,
    Thanks so much for the visit and comment on my blog. I used to worry about comments, too. Now, not so much. Sometimes I just write hi, just to let blogger know I was there. Sometimes I don’t do that either. Have to relax about this stuff at some point and just do the best we can. I couldn’t find how to follow your blog.

  3. This is all kinds of awesome! You’re stilly Brianna. I can personally say that I’ve never felt that your comments (either type) have been inappropriate. In fact, I sometimes find myself blogging FOR YOU. Because I know you’ll appreciate, or understand what I’m trying to say. You are one of the best blog-commenters out there!

    That pic, btw, is the funniest thing ever. I love it! And I think I’ll copy you and concentrate on giving comments to all my fellow bloggers this Christmas season!

  4. i hopped over from Alex’s. the title of your blog intrigued me. i used to have pockets full of playdough. now that the kids are older, i have airsoft bb’s, wrappers from video games, and pieces of sculpey. oh, and lots of dog hair from my 3 dogs trapped under the keys of my laptop. makes it hard to work on my novel. sigh.

  5. As a fellow IWSG member, I can relate to what you are saying. Especially, when you are commenting on a writer’s blog where you know other writers are going to be reading it. It can be a vicious circle. See, looking at this my first thought was, oh no, will people who aren’t in IWSG think I’m being exclusive? Enjoyed the blog.

  6. I loved your post. I have the same insecurities about leaving comments, but I also have them about receiving them. My blog is new and I have very few followers. I know I get traffic, my stats show it. But I usually get zip, zero, zilch in the way of comments, which, of course, makes me feel insecure. I wonder what I am doing wrong, why people aren’t drawn into my blog, that I don’t have anything worthwhile to say/read, and at least once a week think I should just roll up my welcome mat and call it a day.

    BTW: love the name of your site!

    Author of Concilium, available July 2012
    Concilium: The Departure, November 2012


  7. I am peeping in from another IWSG blog I was visiting….looks like we think alike, atleast when it comes to commenting…I have been a silent visitor quite often, sometimes because I have nothing to add on the topic and sometimes because I am afraid that they will trackback and find my boring blog. I guess that makes for another insecure post. :) Merry Christmas in advance.

  8. I can empathise with you as I was accused of second guessing everyone, once, too. I realised that the person telling me ( a counselling professional) had a point.
    I am now much, much better at being happy with my own decisions and taking a step back from reacting to others. I tell myself, give them time and usually it turns out well in the end.
    Comments do make the best gifts when they come from the heart. :O) x

  9. I love it!! ANd thanks so much for the comment you left me. Don;t think too hard on it, just be natural and respond even if it’s only to say you enjoyed reading it. I’ve found the more you comment, the more friends you make. :)

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